It is important to understand your own emotional landscape. The feelings that we have determine our realities. Do you make decisions out of love or out of fear and worry? Filling yourself with negative emotions will mess with your vibrations and invite more negativity into your life.
Letting go of fear and worry is crucial to live life to the fullest. I have come to understand that “losing the ego” means to stop making decisions based on fear/worry. It is the ego that is responsible for creating these false illusions. Are your problems really as bad as you imagine them to be? Have faith in yourself that everything will be ok no matter what. Conquering these weaknesses will allow you to permanently sustain a positive self-image.
Things typically don’t go your way when your fuel tank is running on fear/worry. People are extraordinarily sensitive to the reality that you project upon them and will react accordingly. The emotions you give to others will find their way back towards you. A positive reality is much more dominant than a negative one.
Some people confuse being realistic with being negative. It is not negative to avoid walking through a hood at three in the morning. It is not negative to have a low tolerance for bullshit and terrible attitudes. It is not negative to realistically assess your weaknesses. Letting go of fear doesn’t mean to throw everything else out of the window. Every person has their boundaries. You can live positive while retaining a healthy sense of skepticism.