Every man, at least once in his life and especially when he’s young (teens or early 20s in particular), should get into a long-term (multi-year) relationship and fall deeply and madly in love with a girl he has an insane amount of chemistry with and believes is preeminent and ‘better’ among the rest, and then proceed to get fucked over by her as time ensues and she reveals the true nature of herself as the dirty, lying, cheating, childish below-average slut that she inevitably renders herself and regresses into. Sound less than ideal? It’s not, for that time period, when a man’s life is consisting of sadness, anger, betrayal and absolute heartbreak; it will drive him in the future to become better (even though he already is) than the dumb broad that took advantage of, deceived and led him on and whomever she encounters.
Every man should have his heart broken and torn to shreds at least once in his life. The heartache, anger and pain resulting from the devastating effects of the girl’s actions will serve as the necessary tools to fuel the man’s motivation to strive for success and be the absolute best version of himself. And the best part about all of this? In the long run, the man will have moved on and will be better than ever for it, as he meets better, more productive and higher quality women (read: ones that won’t whine about his past, lie to him or cheat on him), while the girl that fucked him over and broke his heart will wallow in mediocrity with unremarkable, uninteresting, below-average, dime a dozen, underwhelmingly bland men that cannot compare to the greatest thing she’s ever had, that she lost.
If that girl was so great, then why did she lie and cheat? If a girl lies and cheats, she already exposes herself as being useless to you. She outs herself as being a [below-] average, dime-a-dozen chick that is bereft of any of the special qualities you previously thought she had.
A life without pain is a life without challenge and a life without challenge is a life without growth. A person can pretend, for years, and say they’ll always be there for you, but when it comes down to it, their true actions will shine through. You might be there for them during the absolute toughest times of their life, and they might not ever appreciate a damn thing. You might invest each and every bit of your heart, soul, passion and time into someone or something for years of your life, and there’s a good chance they’ll take advantage of you and, in the long run, they’ll fool themselves into thinking they can ever find anyone better, let alone on the same level, which they won’t, but then again, ignorance is bliss on their behalf. Watch and pay attention to a person’s actions rather than their words — make decisions based off of that rather than the horse shit that comes out of a liar’s mouth. Liars don’t value the truth in anything.
When you choose to do something in life, something that you have a passion and love for, and you delve balls deep into what you are wanting to do, set up goals and plan. A man who fails to plan, plans to fail. Along the way, people will dissuade you of what you want to do, either directly or passive-aggressively. These people will include your friends and family. What you must realize, first and foremost, is that you are your own individual self, and what you want to do is separate from what they want you to do. If you do what they want you to do while ignoring your natural desires and wants in life, you will be miserable in the long run.
Ultimately, raise a middle finger, direct it at the past and give it all a hearty, “Fuck you!” to everyone who has ever done you wrong (especially the one person that stands out) and use what you feel and sublimate it all into motivation. When LeBron James signed with the Miami Heat in July 2010, he caught a lot of hell from people. A lot of supposedly ‘loyal’ fans completely disregarded LeBron. He made a list of people’s names, of people that screwed him over, and every day for the past 3+ years he’s looked at that list when he wakes up in the morning. Since then, he’s led the Heat to three trips to the NBA Finals, two NBA Finals wins (2012 and 2013), two NBA MVPs in this current span (four overall) and he’s only 28-years-old. Cut the bullshit. Turn it all into positive pursuits for goals and reaching success.
Like the title of this post reads, greatness is rarely achieved without previous pain.
Fail and reframe. A lot of people sugarcoat the word ‘failure’, but failure is a necessary part of life. It should serve as motivation and not termination (of your dreams). Fail once? Reframe; look at what failed and educate yourself on the ways to rectify the wrongs. Write down your goals and plans every day.
If you lack resiliency, you lack toughness. Get back up and keep trucking forward. Get busy living or get busy dying. Understand what you have to offer and instill that in yourself. That’s one part of the equation. Taking action and getting on with it is the other. Nothing worth a damn comes easy, my friends.
People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing — that’s why we recommend it daily. (Credit to Zig Ziglar)